If someone asked me to name one thing that I am positive about, it would be that life never stays the same.
When we talk about finding or being our true selves, it is because our life has changed and we are trying to figure out what that means going forward. Actually, until something unexpected and drastic happens, most people rarely take the time to stop and analyze who they are. We are too busy just living.
We grow older. Our circumstances change. We take on different roles in life. All this has to be navigated without a life GPS. How much easier it would be if we knew where we wanted to land at the end of our life, plug that information in, and be provided with a step-by-step guide to navigating all the decisions that come across our paths day to day. It would be even better if the GPS calculated our emotional reaction to change because it is this response that usually trips us up and keeps us from knowing how to move forward.
On top of all that, we all have that nasty little inner voice that validates every doubt, fear, and insecurity that we have. You know that voice. It’s the one that tells you that you aren’t good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, educated enough, or worthy enough. Every time you set out to achieve a goal, whether it is writing a book or finding love, this inner whisper becomes a yell that many times drowns out your confidence. You begin to rationalize that maybe you didn’t really want to do it, it wasn’t that important, maybe it’s not the right time, etc. And each time this happens, your real self grows sad until you stop dreaming, trying and tuning in to your real self.
Who is that voice? Why do we have it?
Perhaps we were originally equipped with it to keep us from danger. But now in our modern world, it has become an internal enemy keeping us from becoming all we can be. It sometimes becomes our friend. Did you ever share your ambition with a “friend” just to have them tell you all the reasons not to get too excited because things probably won’t work out? They shoot down your ideas, undermine your confidence and remind you of your limitations. They validate your internal enemy who has already told you the same thing.
The choice then becomes yours – do I cave and give up? Or do I tell both of them to shut up and go away?
The difference is that you can walk away from the “friend” and stop associating with them, but your inner voice follows you home. It begins replaying the conversation in your head. At this point, you need to do two things.
First, you need to step back and evaluate who you are, who you want to be and what you really, truly want and why.
This knowledge is the foundation on which to build your dreams. I come from the construction world where, years ago, contractors built houses at the beach on concrete slabs. It was quick and easy. However, when storms came, the houses were destroyed because they were built on sand with nothing to hold them in place. Now drive through any shore community and you see houses on tall pier footings that don’t stop at the surface of the ground. The footings go deep into the bedrock so that when the water rises and winds blow, the house is safe. Taking the time to figure out your core values, passions and beliefs create deep-rooted footings on which wise life decisions can be made when life’s changes and storms occur. This is easier if you have a formula that guides you through the process. I’ll tell you more about the formula I use a little later.
Second, you need to disassociate yourself from your negative inner voice.
How? Name it. Years ago I was struggling with self-loathing. After being in a verbally, emotionally and physically abusive relationship for nearly twenty years, I was broken. So broken that my inner voice was convinced that everyone would be better off if I was no longer alive. After attempting suicide twice, I had a moment of clarity where I became angry at my inner voice and decided to divorce it as well as my spouse. I took some time to find my foundation. But this voice would constantly prick at me, so I called it “Mr. Prickley”. Every time Mr. Prickley would start his negative rhetoric, I would close my eyes and imagine turning down his volume until I couldn’t hear him. I would talk back using my renewed knowledge of who I am, who I want to be and what I want giving him reasons why I could accomplish my goals. Doing this over and over built my self-esteem so that I could take the action required to walk down the path to a new life.
These two steps are vital to your PGS – Personal Guidance System. For the past five years, this system has helped hundreds of people turn their life from confusion and depression to clarity and happiness. The key is learning The 5C Solution – a simple trademarked memory tool which quickly walks you through any challenge or decision by reminding you of your foundational beliefs. People from 5 to 75 have learned it and discovered a level of self-empowerment that they never had before.
Yes, life changes. We move, graduate, change jobs, find and lose relationships, become parents, become caregivers to our parents, lose loved ones, suffer from sickness, fight addictions, etc. However, the second thing that I am positive about is that these changes can be easier when you have a formula that creates your emotional foundation. After all, you are the only you that will ever exist. You deserve all the desires of your real self!
By: Cindy Cipriani, Clear Path by Cindy
Please join us on Wednesday, July 26, 2017, at 7 PM for our next webinar!
Thermographic Diagnostic Imaging/Health through Awareness will host a free holistic health webinar on Wednesday, June 28th from 7-8PM DST
presented by Cindy Cipriani.
The topic of her presentation will be “How to Move Forward When Life Changes”.
How do you regain mental and emotional balance when life throws you a curve ball?
There are unexpected life changes such as losing a job, the end of a relationship, the death of a loved one, or even children growing up and leaving home. These circumstances can cause confusion, stress, and fear. Without a life GPS to guide us, it can be difficult to find our footing and know what direction to head in. But what if there was a system that could be a guide through the emotions?
“The 5C Solution” is a trademarked system used by hundreds of clients of Clear Path by Cindy. In her presentation, Cindy will be discussing how this system can help you make wise choices in times of confusion and throughout your future.
Learn about The 5 C Solution™ and apply it immediately.
Cindy’s proprietary formula can be taken directly from your first coaching session with her and applied immediately into your personal and professional life.
*Clarity – Get the answer to “What do I do now?”
*Commitment to a course of action;
*Challenges – Prepare for and Conquer
*Create clear choices and a step-by-step plan or path;
*Celebrate each step completed
Cindy Cipriani is an author, public speaker, entrepreneur and Clarity Coach. A master in helping others recover from tremendous pains, setbacks, and confusion, Cindy’s successful business ventures and experiences in finding clarity while overcoming professional and personal obstacles have given her the tools to help individuals, from successful CEOs to those who have hit rock bottom, gain clarity in finding their path. She has attributed her clarity and focus in all of her successes.